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Resolving The 9-to-5 Paradox
By Misty McLaughlinDecember 30, 2011
Making New Year’s resolutions about work/life balance? If you want to tilt the scales towards either more working or more living this year, how much control does your household have to make it happen? Work/life balance conversations inevitably get framed in terms of work quantity. Are we working too much, or too little? How well are we getting compensated for the hours that we do work? ...Posted in Caregiving Fathers, Family, Fathers, Husbands, Misty, nfti-home, Wives, Working Mothers, Workplace | (1) Comments »
Virginity and Sexual Realization
By N.S. NisaDecember 28, 2011
The amazing, wonderful wood turtle published a post on sex in September last year, in which she writes the following about a friend of hers who’d gotten married: The problem was, she didn’t know what she wanted. She had never had an orgasm. (“Never? No self exploring? No boyfriend pillows?” “No.”) It makes me wonder sometimes just how misinformed Muslim wom...Posted in Feminism, nfti-home, Sex, Sex and Relationships, Womanhood | (4) Comments »
The Performance Of Masculinity
By Charlie GlickmanDecember 27, 2011
This article originally appeared on CharlieGlickman.com. Republished here with permission. I've been teaching workshops on male gender socialization for about 15 years or so. The foundation of my presentation is the Act Like a Man Box, which I learned about from Paul Kivel's book, Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart. I like calling it the "Act Like a Man Box," rathe...Posted in Gender Roles, Husbands, Marriage, nfti-home, Sex and Relationships | (4) Comments »
This Holiday Season, Give The Gift Of Life Beyond Parenting
By Matt SchneiderDecember 27, 2011
I have been an at-home parent for the last six years, and during that time, I have struggled to find an identity beyond parenthood. There have been many stories in the press lately about work-life balance—usually about professionals who are trying to find ways to cut back their work schedules to make time to care for children and aging parents. I rarely see any stories about those of us w...Posted in Caregiving Fathers, Family, Fathers, Gender Roles, nfti-home | (0) Comments »
Defining “At-Home Dad”
By Al WattsDecember 26, 2011
I have been an at-home dad for nine years. Or, at least I thought I had been. It turns out I may have been an at-home or stay-at-home dad (SAHD) for only four years. Most of the last nine years I may have been only a primary caregiver. Confused? Yeah, me too. The confusion lies in how you define “at-home dad.” I think most people would consider “primary caregiver” as t...Posted in Al, Caregiving Fathers, Family, Fathers, Gender Roles, Husbands, Manhood, nfti-home | (0) Comments »
On Change And Accountability
By Clarisse ThornDecember 23, 2011
Do we actually believe that people can change? If so, how do we want them to show us they’ve changed? Is absolution possible? Who decides the answers to these questions? I very rarely weigh in on Internet Scandals. This is partly because I’ve got lots of stuff to write that I believe has longer-lasting value than the latest flavor of the moment. It’s also because I have much ...Posted in Clarisse, Feminism, Gender Roles, Internet and Social Media, nfti-home, Sex and Relationships, Sexual Violence | (34) Comments »
There’s More To Sex Education Than Teaching Reproduction
By Justin CascioDecember 21, 2011
I’m the older of two children. When my little sister was born, I was three and a half years old, and I got some version of the story of where babies come from. Later, when I was old enough to be curious about puberty, I read a lot of books and pamphlets about sexual reproduction and a very few about sexuality. It was here that I first learned about masturbation. I think we can do better...Posted in Family, Fathers, Mothers, nfti-home, Sex | (1) Comments »
My Top Questions About Dealing With Multiple Lovers
By Clarisse ThornDecember 21, 2011
Polyamory is a form of consensual non-monogamy in which people have multiple lovers, and are honest with each other about doing so. I have a lot more theoretical exposure to polyamory than personal experience, but I’ve been gaining more personal experience over the last year. It’s often interesting, sometimes painful. Some recent experiences are making me think I am not nearly as s...Posted in Clarisse, Dating, Infidelity, Marriage, nfti-home, Sex, Sex and Relationships | (3) Comments »
My Masculinity
By Andrew D.S. JamesDecember 20, 2011
Andrew D. S. James takes a look at his own personal views of masculinity in response to the debate sparked by Tom Matlack’s recent posts. Tom’s piece “Being a Dude is a Good Thing” has troubled me. His narrative about how men, “get blamed for everything,” rings hollow to me. His description of masculinity conjures all sorts of antiquated demons I thought we ...Posted in Fathers, Gender Roles, Husbands, Life, Manhood, nfti-home | (0) Comments »
Some Of My Favourite People Are Moms
By Jay PalterDecember 20, 2011
One of the trickiest parts of being a primary parenting dad is the moms. I mean, I like moms and sometimes it feels like I have more in common with them than other dads. Yet, this is precisely the tricky part. On a typical day, I see more moms than dads around the school and we seem to have lots in common. These moms and I share the experience of being the ones in our respective partnerships ...Posted in Caregiving Fathers, Family, Fathers, Husbands, Manhood, nfti-home | (0) Comments »
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