July 29, 2011Few research papers hit a nerve like the 2009 report The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness. Over the past 35 years, “women’s happiness has declined both absolutely, and relative to men,” Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers wrote in the American Economic Journal. Some interpreted this as an indirect indictment of the feminist movement, which — the argument went &mdas...
July 28, 2011I am many things: a woman, an academic, a feminist, married, raising two girls, and I’m pro-porn. I’m also an expert in queer history, and write about men’s desire and sexual practices. How bizarre? No, actually, how utterly and completely normal.
July 27, 2011I'm very happy and proud to be a father of four. I'm very lucky that we can afford our lifestyle on my wife’s salary. But having a safe, reliable male contraceptive would have given me a measure of greater control over my life. Unfortunately for all of us, it still seems to be a wish and a hope.
July 27, 2011In groups of other mamas, I am neither full-time caregiver nor career gal, an inscrutable hybrid who can’t make afternoon playgroups nor has a reliable daycare arrangement.
July 26, 2011“What does a professor look like?” I asked, trying to maintain my composure as opposed to telling this lawyer that he was a sexist asshole. “You know what I mean,” he said. “I don’t mean it like that, it’s just that…” *awkward pause*… “well, you don’t dress like that when you teach do you?”
July 25, 2011There is no set timeline to make a decision. There’s just a choice to make, a very difficult one, and everyone’s tolerance for someone else’s bullshit depends on the individual. What’s your brand of crazy? Maybe we should think about it that way, because, the older I get the more I realize that everyone is, indeed, kind of nuts.
July 22, 2011I had a conversation this week with a mom who told me that her 13-year-old daughter was sick and would need a daylong series of tests to figure out what was wrong. The story came up because she scheduled the test on a day when her husband (and father of her daughter) couldn’t make it. He heard the news and asked that she reschedule because, “this is not the father” that he wan...
July 21, 2011For Millenials, the question of who pays goes beyond gender.
July 20, 2011“I know you have sex,” I told him, “but I’m not ready. If you need to have sex with people to ward off the blue balls, you go right ahead. But do not pressure me for sex, or I’ll dump you.”
July 19, 2011After years of hard-fought battles for birth control and the right to choose, early-20s women are the most sexually-liberated group of females in history. As a member of this group I’m grateful not to feel like I have to save my virginity for marriage. However, there are problems with looking to sex as the proof of our progress. Although our dates are no longer chaperoned, we still live i...