Ultimately, marriage seems to be a trap for both parties — especially for those who find it difficult to live within pre-established roles. We’ve both been married before. So when I offered the love of my life a proposal – “Let’s not get married” — I thought he would understand. Here’s how I saw it: Marriage […]
I learned to be fully present with another while holding no huge expectation of what things mean and where they are going. “How many gears does your motorcycle have?” he asks on our first date, dining alfresco on a balmy L.A. evening, picking at salmon salads. It is the third first date I’ve been on […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I was married for 35 years. I’ve been divorced for a year and in a few weeks […]
We are choosing to be together, but apart. We are learning to love each other in a totally different way: as parents to our kids. We can’t even divorce “normally.” And by normal, I mean actually get divorced, sign papers, and move away from each other’s presence. No, we have to be different. Not because we think […]
