Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I am a 24-year-old virgin who has been single for about 99% of my life. While I […]
Linguistic patterns hold over time with repeated and widespread use, contributing to our culture in ways that often fly under the radar. In February, I wrote a piece on having been raised by a sex-positive mother. It was a topic that had been stirring in the back of my mind for a while, as my […]
Research has demonstrated that teens who can be open about their sexuality with their parents fare better in every aspect of their sexual health. Many of us just take it as a given that teen sexuality is something fraught and dangerous—and that if we’re to be responsible parents, it’s also something we need to do […]
Virginity is a social construction that came about because of the commodification of women. Virginity: It’s something we all know of, something we’ve all talked about. It’s something we, as a culture, obsess over. It’s a very valuable thing to have, if you’re a woman, and a very perplexing thing to have if you’re a man. Female […]
Not once did it occur to me that my aversion to sex was anything other than godliness. I’m not normally a person who watches TED talks. I want to be, but the idea of committing myself to something educational when I could be watching videos of dogs is a hard sell. When a Facebook friend […]
This originally appeared on Alternet.org. Republished here with permission. Don’t wait for the perfect moment. There is no perfect moment. Why should you take advice from me? It’s a reasonable question given that I lack any visible credentials, like initials after my name. So, here’s my calling card: I have three kids, 15, 18 and […]
