Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I was broken up with almost a year ago and I still feel so sad and heartbroken. […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’m currently in a long distance relationship of four years. Although I care very much about my […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, The past few columns you’ve been handing out “dump him” advice and, while I don’t think you’re […]
It’s time to close the door on this act of masochistic nostalgia. There’s this one running loop in D.C. that I find myself jogging along from time to time. It’s a doozy. The seven-mile route takes me into three of the four quadrants in Washington and then across the bridge into Virginia for a bit as well. I call […]
There’s an enduring popular image of divorced women as bitter and jaded, while divorced men are portrayed as all too happy to break free. But this proves wrong when put to the test. Women love four things, according to hack comedians and romantic comedies: chocolate, shopping, nagging dudes like it’s their job, and marriage. On […]
We all just do the best we can. I am still just doing the best I can. Hundreds of times over the last six years, I have been told of my strength. I have been told of my persistence, my courage, my unfailing optimism. I have been told how much I must hurt, and yet […]
I’d assumed that, because I didn’t run when he told me his secret, he would want the relationship to progress at the same speed and in the same way I did. I was wrong. On our third date Andrew and I go sunset surfing. On our way to the beach I’m uneasy; I haven’t been […]
You are my art, my theatre, my story, my growth, my lesson learned. But you are not my secret. My mother always used to say our secrets made us sick. If I told a little white lie about the latest cafeteria meal, she’d tell me that my body was really the one who’d be sorry if […]
I went through the motions, like they do in all romantic comedies, all the way down to the bottom of the wine glass. In many ways, it was more of a performance than something sincere. Maybe that’s all that “closure” really is—a performance. I have been pondering what “closure” really means for the last four […]
