As America’s boys see Trump acting out, some will feel their own worst instincts validated. But for others, the idea of “being a man” might mean distancing themselves from his kind of behavior. It wasn’t supposed to turn out like this. We were said to be approaching the demise of a certain type of swaggering, […]
When we help Terrible Men go viral by calling them out, we’re often shedding light on things found in internet hidey-holes where, to be honest, nothing good has ever been produced. If you’re on Twitter, it seems you always find out the same way. You see a new hashtag trending, and a few friends tweet […]
Oh, honey. How can you argue against something that you don’t understand? Dear Dave, When I first read your article thanks to a wonderful feminist I know who shared it (who is also a devoted wife to a husband and mother to a son—doesn’t that just blow your mind?), I told her that I was […]
We can’t allow our silence—online or in person—to be used as a weapon for the weak minded. I work in one of the busiest bar districts in Chicago. Right around Wrigley Field, my bar is filled with sports fans during the week and the folks who don’t want to wait in line for the fancier […]
While they claim to speak for men, their rhetoric may be just as bad for men as it is for women. One of the weirder developments of the online publishing era is the way a loose confederation of embittered anti-feminists has formed, across social media and the blogging world, under the banner of “men’s rights […]
Religion is kind of like fire. In responsible hands, it provides us with heat and light. But in the wrong hands, it causes destruction for destruction’s sake. During my three years working in development for an evangelical Christian school, I learned an important new vocabulary word: worldview. Had I first encountered the term outside of […]
Looking back, most of the messages I received about sex and my masculinity’s role in sex were quite horrifying. Some of the most important lessons I’ve learned in life came through sports. They taught me hard work, commitment, and teamwork. They also taught me some of my most foundational lessons about masculinity and sex. Not […]
Mens Rights Activists want superiority. Feminists want equality. Big difference. Recently I found myself falling deep down the hate hole that are MRA (Men’s Rights Activists) threads on Reddit. My ill-advised exploration was inspired by quasi-friends of mine who claimed to be “good guy” MRAs. These “good guys” said that MRAs were the same as feminists—they […]
