Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My husband and I welcomed our first baby, Dylan, six months ago. He’s wonderful and adorable and […]
And then I put all of the things that made up my feelings and experiences and deeper layers of who I am away. Out of sight. Then I quite literally held on to Dear Life. A few years ago, I became pregnant with my son. We were thrilled. I was sick as a dog for […]
Men are led to believe, often since they are young boys, that women should have sex with them when they want it. You’ve no doubt heard this complaint from one of your married friends: We’re not having as much sex anymore. It’s a complaint that plays right into the stereotype that once couples get married they […]
For many women, the magic of motherhood seems to sweep over them on the day their baby is born. For me, the magic of motherhood came like a change in seasons—gradually and quietly. In late December 2009, the month my oldest son was born, I was scrolling through the photos in my phone and kept […]
The intimacy I experienced with my body and my developing baby during pregnancy was perhaps the most compelling transformation I have ever known. Why would I want to erase that? A close friend of mine from graduate school was in town over the weekend, someone I hadn’t seen since I was mid-way through my pregnancy. […]
