Don’t expect your child to be your confidant, and give them time to grieve. “It was a fine cry—loud and long—but it had no bottom and it had no top, just circles and circles of sorrow.” I‘ve always loved this line from Toni Morrison’s Sula for perfectly capturing the essence of grief. Sharp, endless, and […]
That’s like asking if there’s a downside to having a black president. Oh wait, you’ve asked that too. Oh, Bill O’Reilly, you’ve provided me with so much entertainment over the years. There was the time you screamed at Jeremy Glick, the son of a 9/11 victim, to “shut up.” There was the time you downplayed […]
Quiet, alone time can foster ingenuity, improve concentration, and curb mental and physical burnout from spreading ourselves too thin. So why don’t we take time for ourselves more often? Last weekend, my best girlfriend and I had big plans to grab dinner and drinks together for the first time in over a month. It was […]
When you see red flags, trust your gut. I don’t generally go on First Dates. “But you love dating!” a girlfriend said to me over coffee just the other day. “You love going on dates.” And she’s right in that I like spending time with people I’m interested and invested in. I’m most always in […]
A reporter’s dismissal of serious questions is a reminder that many who are looking at Eugenie Bouchard don’t see a winner first—they just see a girl. Last month, to help us better navigate the holiday socials and family gatherings of the season, Kasey Edwards gave us a list of things to talk to young girls […]
If American professional sports are built on hero-worship, then we need heroes who represent a more authentic America. During a typical playoff season, the NFL is a whirlpool of chaos, cuts, and reorganization. Coaches are fired, salaries are renegotiated, and the 20 teams not in the running for this year’s championship spring headfirst into the […]
Divorce for an adult child is many things, but easy isn’t one of them, says Chelsea Cristene. I remember, clear as day, the moment my parents told me they were getting a divorce. Which was odd, considering my head was as fuzzy as the view out of my windshield, wipers ineffective against the rain, as I […]
The “friend zone” myth reinforces that men and women can’t be friends, reeks of entitlement, and impedes the natural development of relationships. The “friend zone” is stupid, throw rocks at it. This is my perpetual gut reaction to these two words and their compound variant, whether the concept is coming from someone I know (“She […]
Life is inscribed with numbers that pressure us to hit certain achievements by certain ages, but adulthood doesn’t come with any trophies, says Chelsea Cristene. When it comes to wasting time on the Internet, I’ve found that few things are more enjoyable than the webcomic Hyperbole and a Half. Not familiar? Hyperbole and a Half […]
Empowering as these campaigns may be for some women, have we taken the focus off of the cancer itself? A physically fit, presumably young woman sits perched on the edge of a wooden chair, her back to us, naked save for a pair of black underwear. Her arms reach for the sky; strung between her […]
Only children are creative, loyal, and self-aware, so why the bad reputation? A few years ago I found myself sitting across the kitchen table from the mother of a friend, while he and his sister were occupied downstairs. “Do you have any siblings?” she asked me. “I’m an only child,” I said. “Mmm.” She smiled […]
Naturally thin people aren’t dumping grounds for body image issues, because they live in the same ever-shifting whirlwind of impossible standards as the rest of the world, says Chelsea Cristene. My morning gym-prep routine is pretty simple. Change into a pair of breathable shorts and a tank, pin my bangs under a headband, fill up […]
