Just because someone doesn’t have the vocabulary to articulate their boundaries doesn’t mean those boundaries don’t exist or matter. Why, in the name of all that is good in this world, do people feel so entitled to touch children? When I worked as a nanny in college I was always shocked by how frequently people […]
Who will protect our child from the ‘protectors’? Can we truly cope with a lifetime of fear, wondering if our child would become one of far too many whose lives are lost at the hands of police? My partner and I both grew up with music. We both heard our daddies sing from birth, and […]
Ultimately, marriage seems to be a trap for both parties — especially for those who find it difficult to live within pre-established roles. We’ve both been married before. So when I offered the love of my life a proposal – “Let’s not get married” — I thought he would understand. Here’s how I saw it: Marriage […]
On my worst days, I feel that my atheism — a byproduct, no doubt, of my education and racial privilege — has cost me my place in this country. Donald Trump’s inaugural address broke from recent tradition in several ways, and was his most religious to date. His speech stressed unity and solidarity as the […]
Were you invited to a Moms’ Night Out Holiday Cookie Exchange that demanded you bake 72 homemade cookies and don’t know how to say no? Ask a Single Mom. Thinking about divorce and want to know what life is like on the other side? Ask a Single Mom. Have no idea how to make time […]
Some families are all about big, noisy, happy Gotcha Day celebrations. Other families view this day as a time to reflect upon the loss of the birth family and not a reason for cupcakes and balloons. I remember the day I met my son for the first time as if it was yesterday, instead of […]
Understanding the effects of gendered language on children is important because occupational aspirations develop in elementary school. As I turned onto my street a few weeks ago, I saw a bright orange, diamond-shaped sign that said, “Men Working.” I passed by the crew of five. Were any women working? No. And why would they be? It’s […]
He’s reminding me how to be myself before people told me I wasn’t good enough. I am changing. I can feel it. I just left my 7-month-old’s second swimming lesson. I believe it is important for children to learn how to swim at a young age. We blow bubbles, we work on going underwater, we […]
