Getting married in midlife means facing loss sooner than most couples. It was a colleague, a 27-year-old whose sweet and hopeful wedding I’d attended just a few weeks earlier, who put it so directly. We were in the car, driving past the heart hospital, when I mentioned sitting in the courtyard while my husband had […]
This originally appeared on Kristin Maschka’s blog. Republished here with permission. I am so fed up with advice from people telling women that if they just make the right personal choices at the right time in the right order then there is no problem fitting career, marriage, and kids into our lives. That’s a load […]
Lynn Beisner asks: Why are none of our religious role models involved parents? A friend of mine is one of the leading experts on Gandhi. In a recent conversation, he mentioned offhandedly, “Yeah, Gandhi was a terrible father.” It took a while for what he said to sink in. At first, it was just a […]
Emily Heist Moss says understanding how broad and beautiful and strange and complicated a “family” can be is the true definition of “pro-family.” How to define a family: I have two parents and one brother. I also have two step-parents. I have one grandmother, one godfather, two aunts, three uncles, and cousins—step-cousins, half-cousins, second cousins—numbering in […]
This originally appeared on The Good Men Project. Republished here with permission. The other night a friend of mine confessed he was thinking of getting a divorce. After hearing his reasons why and finding them plausible, I bluntly asked him what was holding him back. “Really?” he barked. “Because I don’t want to ruin my […]
Hugo Schwyzer spoke with legendary sociologist and author of the Guy’s Guide To Feminism, Michael Kimmel, and his son, Zachary, about being a male feminist, and how parents today can raise their sons to not fall victim to outdated gender stereotypes. It’s a scary time to raise a son. Even if one suspects (as I […]
As new parents, Laurie Cunningham and her husband are bickering more than before the baby. So is the key to a successful marriage staying childless? A week before my one-year wedding anniversary, I emailed a friend who had been married many more years than I had. “Is it true?” I asked. “Is it true that […]
Originally appeared on From Two To One. Republished here with permission. Though American I have been living in England the past year and am marrying a Scot. After having moved here from New York City where it is quite common for women to keep their last names, it has been overwhelming to experience the strong […]
