We need to offer women a full spectrum view of what might happen to their future children — not showcase a skewed sample of positive individual experiences. As a pro-choice mother to an eight-year-old boy with Down syndrome, I consider a woman’s choice and reasoning related to abortion to be her business alone. Women who receive a prenatal […]
Bisexuals also earn less than their straight peers, and research suggests that discrimination plays a part. Many myths and stereotypes exist about bisexuality — and they’re generally negative. Despite being the largest population within the LGBT category, bisexuals tend to be seen as outsiders in both lesbian/gay and heterosexual communities. While you may think bisexual people would have an easier time […]
It hit me that, for all my criticism of other women, men didn’t take me any more seriously than they would a strange woman off the street. In the end, being the Cool Girl got me nothing. I spent a good portion of my twenties as the “Cool Girl.” I don’t mean to say that […]
Not that I owe anyone an explanation… I haven’t, for even one moment in my life, wanted children. Yet, whenever I say that I do not want children, people usually give me something about not being ready or that it will happen eventually. For a while, I would just put my head down and say something along the lines […]
I wasn’t sure dating was the solution. What if it didn’t work out? That would leave me 36 years old, still with no baby on the horizon. “Is it hopelessly improbable to find the mother of your children on OkCupid? We’ll see, won’t we. I’ve always wanted to be a dad. I had a great […]
On the contrary, I’ve come to believe that having children is one of the most selfish things a person can do. My mother has eight grandchildren already. Eight. And yet it’s on me, her only daughter, to have one of my own. “Don’t you want a little Jessica?!” she pushes. My face crinkles. Is there […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My wife is pregnant (due in a few months), and we’re stoked/excited/fearful/etc. about the prospect of having […]
Chipping away at the problem of bisexual erasure starts with living truth out loud. Last June, in honor of Pride Month, actress Evan Rachel Wood filmed a YouTube video to clear up some common misconceptions about bisexuality and to discuss her personal process of coming out. Her honesty and activism earned her the Human Rights […]
