What if there’s a way to be a selfless mother while still retaining access to that deep space from which we create? The space where you are not your gender, your role, your obligation, but simply human and able to let your imagination run freely? I found out I was pregnant the same day a […]
Grief is an illogical process. And a person going through grief about miscarriage or anything else absolutely has every right to feel whatever they feel, regardless of whether or not it makes sense to you. Last month, I wrote about what I’ve learned from having three miscarriages in six months. Most of the comments were […]
I’ve realized it would be a waste of time to date someone who wants kids. I’d just be postponing a breakup. Ever since I was a kid myself, I’ve held the conviction that I didn’t want kids. I found baby dolls creepy and real-life babies irritating. Whenever I told my parents this, they’d say, “You’ll […]
Guilt is the worst kind of vengeance, a punishment exacted by you for betraying yourself. We have all had an intimate relationship with guilt at some time or another. We all know that it pulls us in, envelops us, and keeps us warm even though we know we should be running the other way. Guilt […]
Don’t let old age be wasted on the old. Sometimes I feel smarter than I was 30-something years ago. I don’t remember how to do Algebra or how to diagram a sentence, but I can read several newspaper articles about seemingly disparate issues and immediately see how they are connected. Like David Foster Wallace on […]
In terms of traumatic impact, the ECT feels like a violence that was inflicted upon me, not a procedure done to help me. Five years ago, I was in the throes of the third and hopefully last severe depressive episode of my life. I have always taken my medication as directed and regularly attended various […]
Changing a culture can take generations, and while teaching our girls that revolutions are born from brave words and fierce actions, omitting the importance of reaction is a dangerous mistake. Trigger Warning: rape “I am certain—my body is pure physical strength.”—Tina Turner Last spring my childhood friend, Marlene, was attacked while walking two blocks from […]
There’s a stigma attached to those who have to be on medication to get through their day. I, for one, am tired of keeping this secret. I remember my first panic attack. I was in my workplace, in a meeting, and suddenly, I couldn’t concentrate on what was being said. An overwhelming feeling of fear […]
