Chanel Dubofsky discusses Yvonne Brill’s ridiculous obit in The New York Times this weekend, and shares how she’d like to be remembered. I have not been to a lot of funerals. The ones I have been to, though, have been for the two women who raised me, so I was paying pretty close attention to […]
Do we re-victimize abuse victims by expecting them to hurry up and heal? It took 15 years after I crushed my legs in an accident before an orthopedist finally explained the prognosis using words I could understand. He said something along the lines of, “I think you have been misled about what is a reasonable […]
Male friendships may lack the intimacy found in many female friendships, but men aren’t as burned by friends as women are. Female friendships are notoriously intense. They can be as passionate as the most all-consuming love affair, as close as a family bond, as supportive as the best therapist, but as toxic as the worst […]
This originally appeared on Eat The Damn Cake. Republished here with permission. I read this book called Privilege about St. Paul’s, the elite prep school, and the part that really interested me was about the girls who go there and how they all have eating disorders. Well, you know, not ALL of them, but a […]
This originally appeared on MichaelKaufman.com. Republished here with permission. You could get into a long debate about the many adjectives we’ve used to describe manhood in order to decide which are really the greatest characteristics of masculinity. The truth is far simpler. To answer the question, “What is good about masculinity?” we need to remind […]
If Nigel Featherstone could share one piece of advice with his 20-year-old self, he’d tell him to not be so afraid of love. Quite frankly, I didn’t know if I was Arthur or Martha, intelligent or stupid, boy or a man, barely sane or as mad as a cut snake. I simply didn’t know. Looking […]
Originally appeared on The Daily Life. Republished here with permission. When is the last time you heard a girl or a woman say, “I’m pretty”? The other day, a woman commented on a beauty-themed blog post I’d written that she thought she was pretty. The comment made sense in the context, but the confession was […]
Russell O’Connor has always felt trapped between male and female, but he finds freedom in dressing as a woman. My wife used to say that she could tell how I was feeling by what was in the laundry basket. The more anxious I was, the more likely I was to cross-dress. It wasn’t something I […]
