Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’m tired of being overweight. I’m a woman in my late 20s and I really want to […]
On this day, however, I was as healthy as any remission patient could be, and I danced like no one was watching. I woke up before sunrise on my fourth day in Greece, on the island of Milos. As I walked on the rocks where the electric blue water crashes on the shore, I realized […]
These songs haven’t so much been the soundtrack of my 2017 as they have been the sound of what I hoped I could achieve. When I look back on 2017, I’ll remember the music. I used to have music on all the time. Back before iPods, I carried my Discman around with me everywhere, and […]
Between family gatherings, friendly get-togethers, office White Elephants, and school Secret Santas, any resemblance between the amount of money you spend on gifts and the amount you can actually spare tends to get washed away in a deluge of social expectations. The annual Bloodfeast of Capitalism is upon us. From now until the end of […]
It’s hard to admit when you’re the bad guy. It was morning and I was in my one-bedroom college apartment that I shared with my roommate Peggy. I went into her room, technically the “living room,” and I opened the curtain to see if she was here. She was and she was pissed. Her sharp […]
I wonder if I can truly handle being a parent after so many years of freedom, quiet, and choice. At 36 years old, I’m starting to come to terms with the fact that I may never have kids. Like many American women, I’ve waited and waited and waited. I go about my day, not even thinking […]
I’ve come to realize that navigating a world where men regularly lay claim to our bodies means reclaiming those bodies, along with our minds. If emotional labor were tracked and compensated, then women have put in overtime during the past few weeks. With a nudge from Alyssa Milano, who popularized #MeToo to continue the movement […]
Even as a home-owning adult, I feel like a child. I am a small woman. I stand just over five feet tall and, outside of pregnancy, my heaviest weight (my current) is 110 pounds. I can still buy some clothes from the children’s department, which I do, on occasion, because it’s usually less expensive. I […]
