Having kids changes everything, but in a loveless marriage, kids could signal the beginning of the end. The day my daughter was conceived, I knew the love in my relationship was gone. We weren’t trying to get pregnant on that day. It was one of those rare pre-cum moments. We never even completed the act. […]
Tina Rodia shares how her relationships with her friends has changed as more of them become parents. Friendships born in frivolity either mature or are let go. As I grow older, I want comfort instead of recklessness, and friends who are like family in all respects, including its challenges. I’m 35, unmarried but in a […]
As a single mom, the author often feels alone. But after a year and half complaining about her isolation, she finally began to realize the benefits of being alone. I’m ashamed to say that since I left my husband three years ago to raise my children on my own, I have repeated a series of […]
Expecting to come back a new woman after a challenging South American adventure, Leah Berkenwald was disappointed when she returned home feeling like the same old Leah. Perhaps, she says, you can’t simply will yourself to change. I just finished a six-week trek though South America with nothing but a backpack and the rough outlines […]
In response to a recent Salon article that compared anti-obesity to homophobia, Jenn Leyva argues that her fatness and her sexuality can not be separated so easily. Last week, Paul Campos wrote an article for Salon claiming “anti-obesity” is the new homophobia. Campos has been involved in fat politics since the Clinton-Lewinski scandal and has […]
When we begin every sentence with “I’m sorry, but…” we think we’re being polite, but we’re really just undermining ourselves. Emily Heist Moss explains why all the unnecessary apologizing needs to stop. It’s a muggy Sunday morning in Chicago. There’s an 8-years-old girl in neon sneakers playing tennis with her mother on the court next […]
Tina Rodia sells health and beauty products to equal parts men and women. The longstanding gender stereotype that men are blind to their own measure of grooming and healthy discipline, or lack thereof, is both true and false. The same goes for the stereotype of the over-preening, hypercritical woman drowning in products and the compulsion […]
Many people crave being alone—in fact, they need it to function—but are far from lonely. Until I left for college when I was 17, I had this weird tendency to look out the window of my bedroom at the parking lot of the movie store across the street from our house, to see if the […]
