Families that don’t fit the traditional definitions should be able to manage an introduction without it feeling like a Three Stooges episode. The new millennium has been transformative for LGBTQ couples in many ways. When I came out as a lesbian in the mid-90s, I believed that I was destined to live life on the fringes. […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My friend—let’s call her Mia—and I have been best friends for 20 years, since we met in […]
Our marriage had been sitting on my shoulders for too long, and I was unable to hold it up anymore. I knew I was madly in love with Eric when we got married. He was charming and funny, and he proved to me that chivalry wasn’t dead. More importantly, I felt like I was a […]
You’re keeping yourself miserable. We create myths because we’re afraid, and divorce means BIG changes to the fundamental societal structure we’ve been accustomed to: marriage. When people criticize those who divorce, they are issuing a warning against change—don’t buy in. Take another look. Not only can you survive divorce, but you can also find happiness. Here are four common myths […]
What’s wrong with indulging in a little harmless fantasy? I recently ended a long-term relationship. Like anyone who’s just been through a rough breakup, I spent a week on the couch watching Love on Netflix and crying into my Lean Cuisine lasagna. I kept the blinds closed and the lights dimmed and moped around like […]
Straight cis men never refer to their male friends as their boyfriends. So, why do straight women continue to refer to their platonic female friends as such? It’s 2016, ladies. In 2014, at the ripe old age of 24, I finally got myself a girlfriend, and I was amped about it. I was in love. […]
She fucked my husband and I’ll never condone that, but she wasn’t the one who pledged me fidelity. If Beyoncé wrote the soundtrack of my life, she wouldn’t describe my husband’s other woman as “Becky with the good hair.” The woman my husband cheated with was certainly no Rachel Roy (who really, really wants you […]
I am left to wonder if I can ever love again, seduce again, trust again. While the rest of my network spent the opening months of 2016 bustling and buzzing over the fall of Bowie, the rise of Bernie, and the half-time performance of Beyoncé, I spent it enmeshed in licking the wounds of a […]
