By starting my days with a deliberate decision to focus on the person in front of me and not a screen, I set a new standard for what deserved my attention. Conferences can get expensive fast. There’s the cost of the conference registration itself, fees for any pre-conference activities, fees if you need to join […]
I once had a boyfriend in college tell me that it was unusual that he had gone down on me as early on in our relationship as he had, given that he usually waits longer to make sure he knows “where that’s been.” They say everything we put on the Internet lasts forever, and DJ […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I think I made a huge mistake. My good friend got married earlier this month and I […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’m supposed to be a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding in a few weeks but I don’t […]
Meeting the demands of others, rather than my own, will only lead me astray from what matters most: my happiness, health, and wholeness. I do not remember a time in my life when I was not a people-pleaser. Maybe it’s because I am a firstborn, so, at an early age, I began overachieving. Maybe because, […]
We are hard-wired to think that we can change people who don’t love us back. The problem is that life isn’t really like that. There was a time when I was epically bad at dealing with unrequited love. It was my senior year of college and I had a crush on a friend of a […]
New research shows it’s the woman with the higher libido more often than we think, but that there is a way to turn down sex without harming your union. “I’m horny” I playfully text my boyfriend. After about a minute, a wink face emerges on my screen. I get bolder, and send him a picture that leaves […]
You don’t have to just lay there and take it. When I was 15, I attempted to hang myself in my room. It didn’t work. Over the following seven years, I experienced some of the most incredible mood swings of my life. I would feel so happy, then, before anyone could pick it, I’d slump […]
