Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: I’m an almost-17-year-old girl, and there’s this guy in the grade above me who used to stare at me […]
They taught me that the more you love people, the more love you have to give. My parents (to my knowledge at least) are about as monogamous as you can get. They met on the playground—11 years old, my mom turned to her friend and said “I’m going to marry him.” She did. And to […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’m a single mom. And, I think, a pretty great one. I work hard to be connected […]
One of the best things about a second marriage is that you go in with your eyes wide open. “I don’t believe in ‘OK,’ ‘decent,’ or ‘solid’ marriages. I’m against them. I believe only in great marriages, and that you should expect and reach for no less.” – M. Gary Neuman (licensed psychotherapist, rabbi, and author) […]
If you believe in soul mates, you stay with the one you think is yours, no matter how bad it gets, because the alternative is too desolate to contemplate. When I was 16 years old, I found a battered copy of The Bridge Across Forever at my favorite used bookstore. It was on the New […]
I’m learning that real interdependence is the overflow of self-care. I love to love. For 33 years I had no idea what that really meant. I never had a high school boyfriend. I was 21 when I lost my virginity in a casual relationship. Then I dated a series of people who were basically un-reciprocating. […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’ve been in a loving marriage for 20 years and have two children who are now in […]
Countless couples have tackled the taboo subject of racy videos and illicit orgasms. What happens when it’s the woman who can’t stop watching? It’s past 2am and my husband’s breathing has become long and even. An opportunity presents itself. I slip my right hand down my pajama pants and move slowly, careful not to bump my […]
