Letting someone in often means letting go of expectations. “You’re just using me for my laundry facilities,” he jokes when we set up what looks to be the ideal Sunday afternoon date. We’ve been seeing each other for a number of weeks but are still new. Hanging around in jeans and T-shirts at his place, […]
Television is the closest thing we have to mass communicated cultural values. If we can shift it toward a depiction of sexuality that places equal value on female pleasure and female desire, that’s a win. The Scene: Young country pop star Juliette Barnes, blonde and beautiful, lounges in bed. She wriggles, sighs, and frustratedly pulls […]
This originally appeared on Alternet.org. Republished here with permission. Like many women, I’ve been sexualized since before I really knew what sex was. The honking, leering, and whistling began when I was about 11 years old, and it happened almost everywhere in my Mexican working-class neighborhood. On a few occasions, men followed me in their […]
Dana Norris is the founder and host of Story Club. She once went on 71 internet dates. “Wanna go to a hot cop party?” I get this text in the middle of the day from Sara, a good friend of mine who’s been married since she was 23, loves my dating stories the most, and […]
This originally appeared on Alternet.org. Republished here with permission. Like medieval German poetry, lesbians (and bisexuals, heteroflexibles, queers, pansexuals, and womyn-loving wimmin) are frequently misunderstood. Sure, you may have read about them in a Women’s Studies class, glimpsed them briefly on Grey’s Anatomy, or in the plaster aisle at Home Depot, but it’s a rare […]
Setting personal boundaries means prioritizing yourself. You’ve finally revved yourself up enough to tell the person you’ve been seeing that you want more from them, when they come back and tell you they aren’t on the same page. What do you do? Continue seeing them even though you know you want more, or are you […]
This originally appeared on Brain, Child. Republished here with permission. I knew before I met my husband, before I even cared about the world of dating, that making and maintaining friendships with other couples would play a central role in my marriage. As a child, I’d stay in the room while my mom spoke to […]
This originally appeared on Mamamia. Republished here with permission. At some point when I wasn’t looking, I became a shit friend. The type of friend people start whinging about a lot when they’re at dinner and they’ve stopped discussing The Bachelor. The type of shit friend who never returns phone calls. Or emails. Or text […]
