This was originally posted at In Our Words. Republished here with permission. As I start dating, I find myself going through waves of excitement. And suspicion. I don’t know if this is because of my break from dating or if it’s because of my joke of a love life beforehand. Either way, I can’t shake […]
Owen Marcus explores the benefits of men and women forming micro-communities, and shares how our ancestors got it right. We work hard in order to own more, do more, and be more. Much of the reason we don’t feel we have what we really want is because we are looking in the wrong place. The […]
Have you ever experienced negative effects from porn in your own sex life and relationships? Clarisse Thorn discusses the effect porn has had on her and on the sexuality of others. I was recently discussing the cultural Porn Wars with a middle-aged friend. The Porn Wars feature many allegations: that porn has “hijacked” our sexuality […]
This was originally published at In Our Words: A Salon For Queers & Co. Republished here with permission. Dana Norris once went on 71 Internet dates. This is date no. 17 (we posted no. 16 here). John’s Match.com profile picture shows a man with large brown eyes and a receding hairline. Other pictures show that […]
Couples who have been together for a while often need to explore new ways of keeping their sex lives interesting. But sometimes “interesting” ends in injury. Lynn Beisner shares her own story of sex gone wrong. I’ll admit it; I found Noah Brand’s photo spread kind of hot, so I thought I would try it […]
Hugo Schwyzer discusses how sex, class, and ethnicity influence how we argue. As anyone who’s ever been in a serious relationship can tell you, one near-certain source of conflict comes from the simple truth that thanks to our experiences, we all see the world slightly differently. That’s obvious enough. But do women’s experiences—as women—give them […]
Kerry Cohen discusses how her father’s issues with women affected her childhood, her adult life, and her relationships. My sister and I grew up as teenagers in our father’s home. We lived in a three-bedroom apartment in Fort Lee, New Jersey, right across the George Washington Bridge from Manhattan, and I often gazed out my […]
This was originally posted at BlogHer. Reposted here with permission. I remember that I simply could not wait until I had a shiny diamond ring on my finger. I already had a baby in my belly and the admonishment of several family members and friends. Slapping a ring on my hand would legitimize our situation. It […]
