I write a lot about my experiences with BDSM—that’s a 6-for-4 acronym that covers Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. I have a fair amount of experience engaging in BDSM; I also have a fair amount of experience in the BDSM subculture. The subculture consists of meetup groups, educational workshops, dungeons where people practice BDSM, […]
This was originally published at In Our Words: A Salon for Queers & Co. Republished with permission. Trigger warning: This post refers to very difficult subject matter and is not suitable for all audiences. Hi, there. You probably don’t even remember me. You probably couldn’t even pick me out of a line-up. I guess I […]
Last week, to considerable fanfare, the FBI announced it was updating and expanding its antiquated definition of rape. Though rape is generally punished by criminal statutes in individual states, the feds are in charge of gathering crime data based upon a working definition of what constitutes a particular crime. Last updated in 1929, the FBI’s […]
Sex work is a controversial and polarized topic, and there are many perspectives on it. My position is complex—but for me, when it comes to how we actually interact with sex workers, one important factor is whether or not they consent to and enjoy their jobs. I am absolutely in favor of giving better options […]
Sex work is a controversial and polarized topic, and there are many perspectives on it. My position is complex—but for me, when it comes to how we actually interact with sex workers, one important factor is whether or not they consent to and enjoy their jobs. I am absolutely in favor of giving better options […]
This originally appeared on CharlieGlickman.com. Republished here with permission. One of the difficulties that those of us who are looking to challenge the Act Like a Man Box (see my post The Performance of Masculinity for an explanation of that, if you aren’t familiar with it) is that the Box itself gets in the way. […]
This originally appeared on The Fatal Feminist. Republished here with permission. The amazing, wonderful wood turtle published a post on sex in September last year, in which she writes the following about a friend of hers who’d gotten married: The problem was, she didn’t know what she wanted. She had never had an orgasm. (“Never? No self exploring? No […]
This article originally appeared on CharlieGlickman.com. Republished here with permission. I’ve been teaching workshops on male gender socialization for about 15 years or so. The foundation of my presentation is the Act Like a Man Box, which I learned about from Paul Kivel’s book, Men’s Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives […]
