Poking around Role/Reboot yesterday, I came across Hugo Schwyzer and Emily Heist Moss’s debate “Who Pays?”, which asked if men should foot the bill on a first date. In responding “yes,” Schwyzer explains that because men, on average, make more money than women it is appropriate for the man to pay. I found his reasoning […]
“I know you have sex,” I told him, “but I’m not ready. If you need to have sex with people to ward off the blue balls, you go right ahead. But do not pressure me for sex, or I’ll dump you.” He said OK. “I know you’re cute and you go to a nerdy school with nerdy boys who’ll […]
This post is part 1 of a series exploring partnership and independence on the highways of America. It was somewhere on the Loneliest Road in America, U.S. Route 50 in the middle of Nevada, when I took off my wedding ring. I thought about it, and then I did it. Oddly, it was that simple. […]
It is hard to ignore how many highly visible men in recent years (indeed, months) have behaved in sexually self-destructive ways. Some powerful men have long been sexually voracious; unlike today, though, they were far more discreet and generally used much better judgment in order to cover their tracks. Of course, the heightened technological ability […]
Two of the Good Men Project’s regular columnists debate a perennial controversy: should the man pay on the first date? In the age of OK Cupid and PlentyofFish, first dates are as popular as ever, and so is the subject of first-date etiquette. Two of our regular columnists debate this controversy: should the man pay […]
I have taken a poll of my friends, and the results are in: no one who actually knows me finds me intimidating. In fact, it seems I have a reputation for putting people at ease in conversation. I felt the need to conduct this research this because I have been getting some strange results in online […]
When I was 24, I made the decision that I was putting myself in a relationship time-out. I didn’t sit myself down and consciously say I wasn’t going to date any more, but I was tired of pouring my energy and emotions into something from which I was finding little reward. So, I just stopped […]
To commemorate Women’s History Month, the Roosevelt Institute’s New Deal 2.0 blog asked me to reflect on past accomplishments and explore today’s key challenges as part of its ongoing ‘Feminomics‘ series. Here’s my take on marriage and what’s really in a name. Much has been made about this so-called woman-friendly recession. One woman in three now earns […]
