How exactly is “enslaving” men a source of empowerment for women? ManServants is not an escort service, in the traditional sense, a cadre of male strippers, a dating website, or a means by which lonely straight women might find love. Instead, ManServants is a San Francisco-based Internet startup—recently launched by two women, Dalal Khajah and Josephine […]
Sure, a friend should help you present your best self to a potential date, but they shouldn’t help you lie, manipulate, or coerce people into having sex with you. “Is this offensive?” It was a picture of a Coke can, one of the new batch marked with labels like “Buddy,” “BFF,” “Grillmaster,” and what was […]
This originally appeared on The Frisky. Republished here with permission. “Slut,” “dramatic,” and “journey” have got to go already. I spend an inordinate amount of time reading and writing and thinking about words, why they’re used, how they’re used; how sentences are structured, what human motivations are behind those structures, and what human motivations are […]
A version of this originally appeared on The Huffington Post. Republished here with permission. Don’t believe them when they teach you in hundreds of ways that you are inherently more sinful, corrupt, less worthy, and in need of constant male guidance. Reject them. Dear Girls, You are powerful beyond words, because you threaten to unravel the control […]
Coach Tony Dungy said he wouldn’t have taken openly gay player Michael Sam because “things will happen.” All of Missouri was glued to their televisions while one player after the other was picked for the NFL draft in early May. We were all hoping above all hope that openly gay player Michael Sam would get […]
Persistence doesn’t pay off for everyone. And Americans need to stop assuming that getting an education and a job is all it takes to get ahead. I’m not a person who typically gets bent out of shape about opinions on social media enough to comment on them. This is due to collective realizations that 1. […]
Steve Friess wrote an article in TIME asking black women not to push white gay men away, because they, too, know what it’s like to be ostracized and pushed down. Preston Mitchum says black women don’t need Friess’ kind of solidarity. Dear Steve: It’s me, Preston. A queer, black man writing to explain something critical to […]
And might even hurt your career, according to new research. In May, research from sociologists Elizabeth Armstrong and Laura Hamilton confirmed what many of us had long suspected: Society’s biggest slut-shamers are rich college girls. A few weeks later, my friend Jonny passed along, in a sort of generic plea on behalf of men, a […]
