I’ll have to keep tapping the optimism of my generation to snuff out the skepticism of his. I’ll have to find a way to convince him that the world needs artists as much as engineers. My son is getting ready to start his senior year of high school, and despite the looming trifecta for stress […]
When my father died, I grieved. When my mother died, I fell into a void. I’ve never felt more alone in the world than I have since she died. I want to talk about The Rolling Stones today. I want to talk about books or any damned thing that isn’t today. Fuck today. I didn’t […]
The fact that my son has two mamas does not mean that one of us needs to take on the role of father. In the early years of our son’s life, my partner Valerie and I struggled at times to define complementary parenting roles. As lesbians, we did not fit neatly into traditional mother-father gender definitions. […]
Prejudices are learned, and this is how it starts. In June, my son completed the first-grade. And during the course of our summer together, I’m realizing that he learned much more than how to identify the different types of clouds and how to distinguish between different parts of speech. Sending my son off to school, […]
Placing the onus solely on parents to fix a generation hooked on screens is unfair, unrealistic, and unnecessary in an era where the biggest technological threat to our children are the guns in their schools, not the tablets. Another week, another batch of caution articles for parents. Last week, the esteemed Mother Jones ran an […]
While my heart ached for the loss of that carefree nature it also softened with the comfort of knowing I had lived that part of my life fully, perhaps longer than most. I am lying on the floor of my daughter’s room holding her little hand through the bars of the crib while she attempts […]
If we have babysitters at home watching the kids, and we are wearing our grown-up clothes and our very favorite heels…we are not talking about our kids. Some backstory: I am a parent. My husband and I have a bundle of kids. We’ve been doing this parent thing for over a decade now, and I have learned […]
If you ever doubt that our society imposes gender roles on its inhabitants from birth and even before, try getting pregnant. There are two questions people ask when they find out that my partner is pregnant. “What’s the due date?” is one—understandably, friends want to know when we’ll disappear from having social lives and/or turn […]
