People who have not survived this damage don’t understand the violation. I clicked on his picture, and of course it was him. The same eyes. Same goatee. He is in a relationship. He has two children. At first, I got sick and then the tears came. I wasn’t panicked or scared like I used to […]
There has never been a year where a woman’s bottom has been more highlighted in pop culture. I am a curvy girl, and most of the time I’m fine with it. I was the kid who let the ball pass by on the soccer field, only to look up from my nails after a chorus […]
We know the many ways sexism hurts women. But we don’t talk as much about how sexism hurts men. If you have a scrap of progressive politics in your bones, it’s no surprise to you that sexism hurts women. Like, duh. That’s kind of the definition of the word. But we don’t talk as much […]
I hadn’t met my friend until this year, but I know we have friends in common. And it’s been the darkest few months of my life. I made a new friend this year. A mean friend. A debilitating friend. A friend that enabled my anxiety and all the bad thoughts I’ve ever had about myself. […]
From governments to travel agents, the message to women is clear: Make babies. Religion. Economists. Politicians. Family. Friends. Oh yes, and travel agents. How many voices can fit into one woman’s head? How many aspects of her life come into play when evaluating her role as a woman? Religion often plays a part. Some religions embrace the […]
Big butts on women are suddenly popular again, according to the music industry. But I’ve always had one. And it’s been a source of both embarrassment and pride. Recently, there’s been a, shall we say, “re-discovery” of rear ends in the media. Entertainment Weekly called the last four months of pop culture “The Summer of Butts,” which […]
Most days, it seems like at least one demand has to be missing for me to feel as if I’ve got everything under control. I need to talk to you about energy, and I may wax metaphysical at times, so bear with me. First of all, there are different kinds of energy required as it relates […]
No one changes because you shame them into changing. “Are you sure you should eat that?” I can’t remember the first time I was asked that, but I was very young, maybe 6 or 7? I felt it far before the words were said aloud. The looks. The awareness of every cookie, every second helping. […]
