Better relationships don’t have to come at the cost of so many, many bad ones. If we could actually teach good relationship skills… One night recently, I was playing Pokémon at a nearby Pokéstop-heavy area. I ended up hanging out with a bunch of 25-year-old-ish guys (and one lady) who were all a little drunk. […]
I began to understand how often sadness sounds like anger. I used to do professional phone sex. I used my words to create feeling, to create action, connection. As a result, I saw some of the ways sexual excitement and racism intersect. I learned about the human condition, witnessed the way we abandon our undeveloped […]
Non-monogamous relationships are all about being in the present moment, practicing autonomy, while connecting in the most organic way possible. So I haven’t really publicly advertised it, but I have been in an open relationship. It took place during my senior year of college—I had one semester left before graduation and met someone online that […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, My now husband and I were in a long distance relationship for several years before moving in […]
In my life, where I don’t always know whether my fingers will graze sky or ground when I reach out, sometimes our fingers interlaced is all that I need: I don’t need to know how it’s all going to unfold. On the eve of the second anniversary of my husband’s death, a Monday, I drove […]
Late-blooming lesbians find they have a journey of many steps ahead of them. Evie has been playing roller derby for nine years. Over the course of her skating career, she’s seen a number of married teammates leave their husbands for lesbian teammates. “That’s never going to happen to me,” she thought. After all, she had […]
Randall had a way of making cruel gestures look kind, dressing up abusive tendencies in a nice sweater. When I think of my relationship with my ex Randall*, I think of an episode of South Park. Cartman’s friends abandon him due to his atrocious behavior. The next day, he shows up at Kyle’s house wearing […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, In a recent game of “I have never” with a group of friends, I discovered that my […]
