I often feel like the only woman on the face of the planet who no one is attracted to. And I am ashamed—in part because this is something no one ever talks about. Sometimes you have to face hard truths by stating the painful facts baldly. I am 33, I have never been kissed, and the only […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: I’m a single mom of a 3-year-old girl. She’s been my entire world since her birth, but […]
The next time you’re absent-mindedly swiping left, ask yourself why you’re rejecting those profiles. When it comes to dating, there are a lot of opportunities for people to sound like assholes. And let’s be real: We’ve all been huge, gaping assholes about dating. As a professional matchmaker, I’ve interviewed over 1,000 singles, and in the past two […]
I wish we lived in a place where it was totally normal to check in with your friends, and to ask, “Are you dating anyone?” rather than, “Do you have a boyfriend?” When I told my friends I was gay, the majority of them said, “I knew it! I kept wondering why you wouldn’t tell […]
Like a guy who pulls the fade, then stops calling altogether, Sandy and I never actually broke up, never had that big fight I felt like she was goading me into. We just…ended. I never had a bad boyfriend. Honestly, the numbers just aren’t there: If you only ever have had three boyfriends, you won’t […]
Why resign yourself to the dull pain of a mediocre relationship when you’re doing just fine on your own? During Rebecca Traister’s many single years, she was often irritated when the men she dated disrupted her routine. She didn’t like it when they urged her to leave work earlier than she wanted, or when their […]
The freedom to have as much sex as we want also includes the freedom to not have sex at all. I first found out about asexuality when I was 19. Throughout high school, I had very little interest in dating or relationships, but it didn’t really bother me. I was quite happy to think of myself […]
Is saying ‘I do’ saying ‘goodbye’? When I got married, it felt like a dream. Not the kind of fairytale dream little girls grow up envisioning, but a stomach-churning kind of rollercoaster ride. I never imagined myself being anyone’s wife. The idea of being tied to any one thing for more than a few months […]
