Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: I’m a 45-year-old woman, never married, and happily child-free. I live in Los Angeles, where I work […]
You can never, ever go wrong when you choose to take care of yourself. You know that girl who is always dating someone or chasing after her next relationship? The one who can’t seem to ever be alone and whose entire existence seems to revolve around her romantic conquests? Yep, that was me. I am […]
Sometimes the messages we get about romance are good. Other times, the messages are harmful, like the idea that jealousy is a sign of caring, or that not respecting your partner’s boundaries is a way to show intimacy. Whether it’s through movies, TV shows, or magazine articles, we’re constantly being bombarded with advice about what’s romantic. […]
Why do many men on gay dating apps include their racial preference? If you don’t have enough jerks in your life, sign up for an online dating app. It will only be a matter of time before you encounter some spectacularly offensive and unsolicited people and materials. Shallowness in online dating manifests in different ways, […]
During the first few months of my relationship with Jared, despite the fact that I was falling in love with him, I was beginning to distance myself, the way I had in so many relationships in the past. I was 24 years old and in my second year of graduate school at the University of […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My husband and I have been married for five years, and we are proud new parents of […]
I share my nights between my boys, kiss them both when they walk in from work, and sit in the middle on the couch. My husband is my life. He is my best friend, my rock, my confidant and an absolutey amazing father to our three children. We were high school sweethearts and spent all […]
He sat on the edge of our bed and told me that he wanted me to find someone else after he died. Although I was unable to see it in the moment, I realize now all these years later what a kindness it was. In the days after my husband Steve and I learned that […]
