Since most people know when the proposal is coming these days, what’s the point of getting engaged? Just set a date to get married and forget all the fuss. Last week I was in the emergency room for a rabies shot (don’t ask) and found myself listening to an awkward conversation between a nurse, who […]
Not all divorces are failures. Some are diplomas. They are evidence that we showed up, we learned something, and that now it is time to move on. This week brought us another “failed” celebrity marriage: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are divorcing after 10 years of marriage. And, according to my Facebook feed, lots of people have […]
You said I was crazy to sign up for an extreme long-distance relationship. You were wrong. I live in Orlando. He lives in Australia. At any given moment, there are 9,349 miles (plus, one hell of an expensive airplane ticket) separating me from my boyfriend. In fact, our time zones are so far apart that […]
The ideas that plural marriage is restricted to the one man and several wives model—and that it has to have a religious basis—are both ridiculous. “Non-traditional.” A popular catch-all phrase that seems, in common usage, to mean anything that differs from the mainstream. It also describes a large portion of my life—my love life, specifically. My upbringing […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, My partner and I have been together for almost nine years. We are in love, are deeply […]
We’ve been together for over 14 years, and have never gotten married. We’re deeply committed to each other, but sometimes the belief in a relationship can be tested when you least expect it. Andy and I stay seated watching the names scroll down the screen. We left early once, missing the teaser scene at the […]
The rising prevalence of “partner” outside of the LGBTQ community says to me that the Gay Agenda is working: Queer people and our relationships are, indeed, redefining traditional marriage. The first time I remember meeting a straight person who used the word “partner” was in college. My literature professor junior year was a woman with […]
It’s clear that infidelity is incredibly prevalent and has been throughout recorded history. As a culture, we love monogamy. It’s the ultimate romantic promise. The only sanctioned way we are allowed to conduct ourselves in relationships. We even sign legal contracts with the government saying as much (though one wonders why such a proclamation is […]
