There is no methadone clinic for the loveless, no serotonin stand-in for the empty bed and the empty heart. Cocaine doesn’t mind that it’s a commodity. There is no dissenting portion of heroin that foresees its end, the using up of its chemical compounds, and the snuffing out of its selfness in its use. There’s […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I know you went on 71 online dates in two years, and I admire your commitment to […]
I love him, so I was willing to compromise on his last name. He’s just lucky that wasn’t a deal-breaker for me. My husband and I do not share a last name. We might joke about being the Flongs, but his last name is Fleck, and mine is Long. When Dan told me he didn’t […]
Female sexuality is often defined in terms of what men want. Sprout Pharmaceuticals is on the warpath. The pill company keeps applying, now for the third time, to authorize sales of a drug called flibanserin, which has been nicknamed “female Viagra,” but the FDA just keeps turning it down. Sprout would like you to believe it’s […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’ve been friends with this guy for over seven years. We get along famously, and often refer […]
Any kind of societal or internalized conditioning that makes a woman feel ashamed about owning and embracing her sexuality has got to go. A few years ago I was asked to participate in a storytelling show. The piece I read was called “My Vibrator Story.” I had written it in a workshop and test read the […]
If you think people project things onto you now, why would a wedding ring stop them? Women are carpet-bombed with the idea that marriage is their happy ending from their first viewing of Cinderella to the last potboiler Rom Com they saw starring Sarah Jessica Jennifer Kate Meg Julia Whatsherhair. Marriage is also ever-present in […]
Want to find “the one” but don’t want to leave the house? Honor your introversion instead of trying to fight it. When someone invites you to a party, is your first thought, “Do I have to?” And is your second thought, “If I go, how soon can I leave?” If so, you might be an […]
