How do we cope with the pervasive presence of a man who, in his fear of being outdone by a woman, advocated for her jail time and hinted at her assassination? The moment of betrayal is the worst, the moment when you know beyond any doubt that you’ve been betrayed: that some other human being […]
My father violently picked off all the petals and left us lifeless, but somehow we survived. CN: Domestic abuse, child abuse I have been silenced my entire life. My childhood was never mine—it was my father’s sick puppet show, filled with endless cruelty and abuse. My mother, sister, and I quietly suffered. We were placed […]
This could go on for a long time. Brace yourself. One of the most painful and bewildering experiences of my life was trying to navigate the family court system after surviving domestic abuse. There is very little help for women who are trying to get their head above water, who still believe that everything that […]
I stayed with him for six years because I was convinced I owed it to my parents to make it work. I was convinced that no one else would ever love me. A question I’m often asked is, “Why did you stay with him for so long after everything that happened?” This is one question […]
Many adult children of abusers continue to deal with ongoing abuse long after we have reached the age of maturity. The first time I became aware of adult children being abused by their parents was when I went on my fifth date with Ken, a guy I met when I was in Bible college. I […]
