I don’t know if they have forgiven me. I do believe they are, in their own time, as their lives happen to them, making space for the mystery and the force of me—permanently their mother. My friend believes it is hopeless—the situation with her daughters. Their love for her is dead. Gone. Two grown women […]
Parenting young children is about molding them. Parenting young adults is about accepting them. When I became a mother, I pored over the book What To Expect When You Are Expecting. And then for the next year, I was glued to the follow up, What To Expect The First Year. Sadly, most parenting books end […]
Don’t expect your child to be your confidant, and give them time to grieve. “It was a fine cry—loud and long—but it had no bottom and it had no top, just circles and circles of sorrow.” I‘ve always loved this line from Toni Morrison’s Sula for perfectly capturing the essence of grief. Sharp, endless, and […]
