Monogamist or polyamorist, you need to put in the work if you want your relationships to thrive and be a positive force in your life. Love is something that demands work. I’ve been polyamorous for about a year. Although I don’t quite consider myself an “expert” in polyamory, I have been thinking about this past […]
Rather than letting someone shame you, wear your sexuality as a badge of honor. Being a slut is not a bad thing. Are you a woman? Do you have sex? If you answered “yes” to these two questions, then someone, somewhere, thinks you are a slut. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, a slut is “a […]
I refuse to accept that childbirth and child rearing is an inherent and integral part of womanhood. When you read this, I’m probably either getting ready to go to or am already at the hospital to get surgery. Yes, I’m getting my tubes tied today! I have been waiting for two years for this to […]
Better relationships don’t have to come at the cost of so many, many bad ones. If we could actually teach good relationship skills… One night recently, I was playing Pokémon at a nearby Pokéstop-heavy area. I ended up hanging out with a bunch of 25-year-old-ish guys (and one lady) who were all a little drunk. […]
The truly loving, compassionate thing to do was to admit that I had compromised so much and so deeply that my very core had now become threatened. When you make compromises, no matter how well-intentioned or hopeful, nobody wins. A compromise happens when two or more parties give up something that matters to them in […]
When did we let our quick-fix culture mess with our dating life? Maybe it’s the influence of Tinder, or more generally our “buy it now” culture, but I feel like there’s an increasing pressure on dating to have immediate results. Whether it’s sex or commitment or marriage, it seems like more and more people I come […]
Having a bigger body while getting laid and getting pleasure from it seems to be too much for the poor dudebros of the world. Two nights ago, I checked my filtered mail on Facebook. Lo and behold, this was in my inbox: First: I have no idea who this person is (a person of the male gender) […]
Why is our culture so threatened by a single woman who chooses her own path? Why is single womanhood seen as such a terrible thing that must be overcome in order to be happy? I’m a single woman who’s dating, online and offline. That’s already a fairly challenging state of affairs. But it would be so […]
Depth doesn’t depend on constant physical closeness. Disclaimer: This post is for dedicated single women who aren’t into long-term, live-in relationships. I by no means want to offend those in happily monogamous relationships, and this is based on where I am right now in my relationships and sex life. So please, no “well that isn’t […]
It may be a controversial decision, but choosing sterilization is as valid as choosing to carry a child to term. In Canada up until recently, there used to be rules in several provinces about when a woman could ask for sterilization. It usually involved her being over 40 years old, married and having had at […]
