Even though I know I have no business having a baby, it feels like a door closing on my fingers every time I see it happen to someone else. I’ve just learned that friends are expecting in August. Mixed with the rush of joy on their behalf, I feel a pang of envy. Even though […]
Apparently, being single means having a neon sign above your head saying “Please! Tell me what to do with my life!” And it needs to stop. Do I give you unsolicited advice on your marriage? It was at my 10-year high school reunion when I was first hit with a singledom stinger. “Liz Best!” my former classmate […]
I wasn’t sure dating was the solution. What if it didn’t work out? That would leave me 36 years old, still with no baby on the horizon. “Is it hopelessly improbable to find the mother of your children on OkCupid? We’ll see, won’t we. I’ve always wanted to be a dad. I had a great […]
When did we let our quick-fix culture mess with our dating life? Maybe it’s the influence of Tinder, or more generally our “buy it now” culture, but I feel like there’s an increasing pressure on dating to have immediate results. Whether it’s sex or commitment or marriage, it seems like more and more people I come […]
You will now need caffeine with your booze to stay awake. I’m developing a love-hate relationship with the big 3-0 birthday looming ahead next summer. There are days when I can’t wait to shed my 20s like a cocoon and emerge as my Adult Self, leaving behind all of the uncertainties and mistakes of the past […]
Women’s reproductive lives and choices are often a public discussion, as if our most personal decisions are up for committee debate. When my friend Jen invited me to a closed Facebook group for women who don’t have children but do have pets, I thought it would be a fun distraction. At 39, my only child […]
I will not look back and lament not considering this option, no matter what the eventual outcome, and that is worth every penny to me. Last month, Facebook and Apple announced that they would begin covering the costs of egg freezing for their employees, setting off a firestorm of controversy across the country. Articles praising […]
There is no way to compromise on an issue like this. As much as the census may claim that American families have one point something children per household, you can’t have half a baby. I’m 44, and I bled again this month at exactly 27 days—the calendar of my body, clockwork of my reproductive system, […]
