We need to teach boys that no one owes them sex, and we need to teach girls that the idea that they need to make a boy beg them for sex, or ask repeatedly for a date, is a dangerous one. If you grew up in the United States, it is almost inevitable that you’ve […]
While there are broad aspects of male privilege that male children may experience, there is a high price to pay for being bad at being a boy. Recently, in an auto parts store in Columbus, Ohio, I was called a “faggot” for the first time as a newly out, non-binary femme. I am a 600-pound […]
Young men think sexism is a thing of the past because that’s what we’ve allowed them to think and, in some cases, actively taught them. During the past few weeks there has been a lot of news coverage of a Pew Research Center study revealing that more than half (56%) of men surveyed think sexism […]
We need to start talking to our sons, and tell them that it’s OK to feel and express emotion. That it doesn’t make them any less of a man. Raising boys can sometimes stink. I’m not talking about all the dirty socks, but rather the toxic culture of masculinity that surrounds our boys and that […]
This originally appeared on JaysonGaddis.com. Republished here with permission. Being perceived as gay. Being perceived as too feminine. And having a small penis. Want to know any man’s biggest fear? Some might say “the unknown,” “being broke,” “not being loved,” or “not being in control.” While these top the list, there are a few fears […]
Reaching boys and helping to mend their broken world views—or making sure they’re never broken to begin with—can no longer be a niche of feminism. In the few days since the shootings at Isla Vista, a national conversation about men, masculinity, and sex has emerged. It’s not the first time we’ve had such a conversation; […]
This originally appeared on Cognoscenti. Republished here with permission. From a young age, boys receive the same lesson: Conform to narrow gender performance rules or face humiliation and, very often, violent repression. I was late that day on my way to the lunch room in high school. The hallway was almost empty. A couple of older […]
Seventeen years later, I finally have the courage to say, “I am a sexual abuse survivor,” and I need to heal myself. Trigger warning: This piece contains details about rape, sexual assault, and violence. The National Crime Victimization Survey recently revealed that 38% of victims of rape and sexual violence were men. Since men are often silent […]
