Meeting the demands of others, rather than my own, will only lead me astray from what matters most: my happiness, health, and wholeness. I do not remember a time in my life when I was not a people-pleaser. Maybe it’s because I am a firstborn, so, at an early age, I began overachieving. Maybe because, […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, My boyfriend and I will be having our one year anniversary next month. For the past months, […]
I didn’t want love, because love makes you weak, I told myself at the time. I didn’t want to be vulnerable, couldn’t be vulnerable, because vulnerability gives other people power over you. When I left P, I told myself, “Never again.” I was determined that I wouldn’t end up with someone who cheated on me, […]
Some friendships naturally dissolve. And others end awkwardly, painfully. The end of a love affair is big business. Think about the books, songs, and movies about break-ups; it’s a never-ending flow of artistic release. But what about when we “break up” with a friend? Sometimes, a friendship’s evolution is organic. We take the hint, phone […]
