One spring, I am at an art show, and my fabulous midwife Michelle Fitzgerald stops by my show. I’m delighted to see her. She asks after my kids first, then my husband. I stumble a bit, trying to say that we weren’t together anymore. It hadn’t been but two-and-a-half years since she delivered our youngest […]
This originally appeared at The Mamafesto. Republished here with permission. One of the fun things about Facebook (you know, besides profile-stalking) is connecting with old friends. It’s especially neat when you find yourselves not only waxing nostalgic about the “good old times” (aka the ’90s), but when you can find some current common ground to […]
This week, we came across an article in Businessweek called Behind Every Great Woman by Carol Hymowitz. It explores the changing rules of many modern families—as more women earn high-level corporate roles, more husbands are staying home to raise their children. And since 23% of wives now out-earn their husbands, women now fill a (slight) […]
Making New Year’s resolutions about work/life balance? If you want to tilt the scales towards either more working or more living this year, how much control does your household have to make it happen? Work/life balance conversations inevitably get framed in terms of work quantity. Are we working too much, or too little? How well […]
This piece was originally published on CitiScoop: The Insider’s Guide to Modern Parenting. Republished here with permission. I have been an at-home parent for the last six years, and during that time, I have struggled to find an identity beyond parenthood. There have been many stories in the press lately about work-life balance—usually about professionals […]
I have been an at-home dad for nine years. Or, at least I thought I had been. It turns out I may have been an at-home or stay-at-home dad (SAHD) for only four years. Most of the last nine years I may have been only a primary caregiver. Confused? Yeah, me too. The confusion lies […]
This article originally appeared on homemadedad.ca. Republished here with permission. One of the trickiest parts of being a primary parenting dad is the moms. I mean, I like moms and sometimes it feels like I have more in common with them than other dads. Yet, this is precisely the tricky part. On a typical day, […]
This originally appeared on The Scale: The Pursuit Of Balance In Life. Republished here with permission. There was a huge response to a recent article in ‘The National Post’ by writer Christie Blatchford regarding the men of Toronto. It was a call for Toronto to stop being a ‘City of Sissies’. In response, I am […]
Last month, I became a new father to a beautiful boy. I’ve since thought a lot about my own father, who died 25 years ago and would have loved to see this moment. But a deeper loss than my own struck me the first time my baby boy fell asleep on my chest. All 10 […]
Women, let’s get honest: Would you like men to change? Would you like them to be more emotionally sensitive and expressive? Would you love men to support your campaign to truly be equals and to champion your wins? In the last 50 years, women have made great strides in becoming the women they want to […]
This post was originally published on The Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Nicole Johnson argues that societal tropes of masculine strength and perseverance obscure the fact that emotional damage can destroy a man. I have been the beneficiary of magnificent male mentors. From dating tips to elevator pitches, I have received outstanding advice from men. […]
I’m just old enough (or young enough, depending on how you look at it) to remember the waning days of the sexist job interview. As a law student and lawyer, I remember reading the do’s and don’ts of what to ask or how to respond. For female candidates, there were many no-nos: Never ask about marital status […]
