How does a woman cope with not being number one? “If you could have anyone in the world for a boyfriend who would it be?” One of the most crucial questions of every girl I knew. In notes passed between desks and magic eight ball wishes. It could be anyone. It had to be someone. […]
A group of couples counselors are placing the focus squarely on sex as the first step to relational happiness. Conservative estimates suggest anywhere from 20 to 60 percent or more of people cheat on their spouses. Internet porn remains—as you probably know, quite possibly firsthand—wildly popular. If a thing exists, there’s someone out there who’s […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’ve become really close to a co-worker, who’s expressed interest in me romantically. He’s exactly like my […]
It’s clear that infidelity is incredibly prevalent and has been throughout recorded history. As a culture, we love monogamy. It’s the ultimate romantic promise. The only sanctioned way we are allowed to conduct ourselves in relationships. We even sign legal contracts with the government saying as much (though one wonders why such a proclamation is […]
Vicarious living is a zero sum game you’ll always lose. You cannot outsource the responsibility of manifesting yourself in the world. When my mother told my father to leave the house as my stunned kid sisters and I looked on, I blasted Gershwin’s “Rhapsody in Blue” in my head. My father, a lawyer, was “borrowing” […]
What’s worse: emotional or sexual infidelity? A new study says that your gender may determine how you answer that. A new study came out recently from Chapman University about jealousy and infidelity. According to the study, which surveyed 64,000 people in America, 54% of men and 35% of women said they were more bothered by […]
Trying too hard with love, forcing yourself and someone else to feel a certain way, or willing emotions to advance too quickly, will leave you feeling nervous, exhausted, strung out, and defeated. After my 10 year relationship ended, 10 years too long and a lot of angst culminating to the anti-climactic ending, I slowly began […]
Winnie Salamon’s friend broke free from the mother/wife daily grind. But was it worth the price? I’ve never dreamed of wedded bliss and happy families. My parents’ relationship was so dysfunctional, I assumed that those freakish couples with well-adjusted children who appeared to actually love each other were lying. When my dad had an affair […]
