It turns out that “Do you want to be pregnant?” and “Do you want to be a parent?” are two very separate questions, and for me, they have two very different answers. Maybe this is an inevitable part of being in my 30s, but I’ve recently, inexplicably, wanted to nurture something. So I went to […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I think I would like to have a kid someday soonish with my husband, but when I […]
I’m more afraid of having a baby than I am sitting through a horror flick. And I’ve seen Carrie. On my 21st birthday I officially declared to my parents that I would never get married or have children. I’m now 39 and I’ve defiantly stuck to my guns. Amongst my friends, I feel like the adolescent […]
We are already so hard on women, and women are so hard on themselves. We shouldn’t set them up to feel like any birth that ends in a healthy child is a failure. When I found out I was pregnant I immediately started making my birth plan. I planned on giving birth in a hospital, but […]
Do you have a burning question about pregnancy, modern parenting, or family life? Send it to Evie at AskEvieColumn@gmail.com or click here to submit your question anonymously. Dear Evie, My daughter is 7 months old—she’s a funny, curious, adventurous little girl and she’s the light of my life. Before I had her, I struggled with recovery […]
Men are led to believe, often since they are young boys, that women should have sex with them when they want it. You’ve no doubt heard this complaint from one of your married friends: We’re not having as much sex anymore. It’s a complaint that plays right into the stereotype that once couples get married they […]
We’re living in a time when women should be able to control what happens to their bodies, but that isn’t always the case. My mom still gets mad when she talks about the birth of my older brother, even though it’s been many years. Her face gets red and her hand gestures get bigger and bigger […]
Postpartum psychosis is believed to occur in 1 to 2 of every 1,000 women after childbirth. When I clicked on the story about a woman in her late 20s who had stabbed her three small boys to death, before stabbing herself as well, two facts stood out to me. Her brother—the poor man who had found his […]
The Internet does love a good story of a bad mother. Social media is buzzing today with the story of Samuel Forrest, a dad living in Armenia who has opted to keep his newborn son with Down syndrome even though his wife has abandoned the child and is now seeking a divorce. The Internet does love […]
Since becoming a new mom, Dana Norris has learned that motherhood isn’t a job. It’s a state of being. It’s 6:30am and I am covered in bodily fluids, none of which are my own. In the past 20 minutes my 4-month-old son has peed, vomited, cried, and pooped on me. He is in his second crib sheet, […]
