You can do this, even when you don’t think you can. I won’t lie. There were times growing up that I hated my mom. She was a single mom. She spent her days teaching emotionally disturbed children and would come home totally exhausted. Some days she was so tired that she locked herself in her […]
I became the mom I’d always hoped to be. “I know you can’t see it now, but you’ll end up appreciating the nights your children are away,” my mother said to me when I was getting divorced. She was right. I couldn’t see it then, but I truly treasure those blocks of time when the […]
Divorce is never easy. Ever. But it doesn’t automatically mean ill-adjusted kids. Good marriage is great, great marriage is amazing, and bad marriage? It’s not good for anyone. American divorce rates are hanging at 40-50% for first-time marriages, and those numbers go up exponentially for each subsequent marriage—presumably because once you’ve endured it, it’s less […]
I often dream of running away for the holiday. My tendency to give thanks for my life, a year round habit, comes to a temporary halt at the one time of year designed to elicit such sentiments. Thanksgiving, instead, causes me a low-grade, body buzzing anxiety that starts on November 1st. This is also a shame […]
At age 10, I was already reflecting on the fact that some of my earliest, definitive memories were of my parents fighting. Unhappily partnered parents: Please don’t stay together “for the kids.” I’m not married and I’m not a parent. Granted, should I eventually be married and have children with that partner and be contemplating […]
