Just treat us with respect, be open to learning from mistakes, and apologize when you make them. And, you know, don’t ask about our genitals. Nothing ruins a fabulous day for me more than entitlement. I’m talking about the expectations placed on me as a transgender person that are never placed on my cisgender counterparts. […]
If I could accept that none of my attractions cancel out the others, why do I still feel like I am not enough? As a girl who liked boys, I never thought when I was younger that I would be allowed to take up space in those communities meant for people who were wholly something […]
We tried to love beyond gender, and hit the wall. On our first OKCupid-initiated date, Ryan* and I timidly gazed at each other across a cafe table, punctuating the silence with sips of lattes. But by the time the discussion escalated to our common childhood spiritual obsessions, it was as if we had known each […]
Coming out often means fielding really personal questions then being judged. It’s hard to describe the full impact of coming out to someone. Because of the positive mainstream media representation, the access to people’s experiences on the Internet, and the campaigning of activists in many places, the stigma of being gay has diminished. For this […]
Is analyzing and fighting racism only the responsibility of those directly impacted and disadvantaged by it? I hope not. I’m sitting around a table at a bar with one man and three women—three of my lesbian friends. They’re discussing the need for more lesbian meeting spaces and hangouts in our city—maybe a lesbian café, arranging […]
