It’s in those moments, when we look back and realize we’ve erred, that we grow the most. A few years ago, an acquaintance told me he’d just read a book he thought I’d enjoy. “It’s called ‘Being Wrong,’” he said. I laughed and asked why he thought I’d like it. In a soft, serious voice […]
There is no “normal” amount of sex to have and no “normal” type of sex. There is a common sexual experience that few people talk about and yet is more pervasive than most people realize. Many adults are sexually inexperienced and this causes a slew of issues as they get further into adulthood, deeper into […]
Do you have a burning question about pregnancy, modern parenting or family life? Send it to Evie at AskEvieColumn@gmail.com or click here to submit your question anonymously. Dear Evie: The other day I bought my 19-month-old son some new shoes. I bought him some tiny black Converse high tops because they were hilarious and reasonably priced. […]
When do girls start doubting who they are and start believing the words of others? It’s how it should be. Innocence, sincerity, simple. I watch my daughter and her friend do each other’s hair. They are 8 and 9 years old. They haven’t discovered that this classic game of “salon” is a primer for beauty. To […]
We are still teaching girls that they should “become confident” by doing what they are told to do and by making other people comfortable. American girls, we hear repeatedly, lack confidence. According to a study conducted by Harvard’s Graduate School of Education, by high school, girls—particularly white girls—are less likely than their male peers to […]
People can be ten thousand things, and really, looking beautiful is only one of them. I recently participated in a photo shoot, and the photographer posted one of the images on Facebook. Most of my Facebook friends posted underneath, You look [insert fabulous adjective here]! However, one person commented: This is the true essence of you. […]
I have seen beautiful women with shapely, healthy bodies stuffed into Spanx, hiding this very precious piece of themselves—their bellies. It was my last full day on vacation down the Jersey Shore—a vacation where I indulged on piping hot donuts and buckets of fries on more than one occasion. My partner and I decided to […]
If our bodies tell the stories of our lives, we need to let them say more than that we are desired. About two years ago, a Facebook friend of mine began posting tastefully erotic pictures of fat women. The first time that I saw one in my feed, I physically cringed. I was not feeling […]
Confidence comes from knowing you can get shit done. When I was in my 20s, I lived alone in New York, in a tiny studio apartment. Aside from a few sporadic, months-long relationships, I was mostly single, so when things broke, I just took care of it. Of course, I could always call the super […]
Why do we women feel the need to connect our body image to our dynamics with our significant others? By doing so, we externalize our own self-worth, making it fragile and dependent on other people. We all been there, haven’t we, or is it just me and Christina Sturdivant over at xoJane? On Monday, Sturdivant […]
This originally appeared on Alternet.org. Republished here with permission. Perhaps it’s time for a social media spring-cleaning. In this technological age, social media has become a primary gateway to connect with friends and the world around us as part of our daily ritual. Yet what often begins as a harmless virtual habit for some can […]
