This originally appeared on Alternet.org. Republished here with permission. Impasses inevitably arise in any relationship. The question is how you negotiate them. Meta is my favorite prefix. It refers to whatever follows it: meta-cognition means thinking about thinking, or a meta-blog is a blog about blogging. Meta-incompatibility means incompatibility about incompatibility. If you and your partner negotiate incompatibilities using different […]
This originally appeared on Mamamia. Republished here with permission. Whenever I run into old friends, family members, or associates I haven’t seen in a certain amount of time, we both obviously have a keen interest to know what the other has been up to. My queries are of a general nature—I like to give them […]
Dana Norris is the founder/host of Story Club, a monthly storytelling show in Chicago. She once went on 71 internet dates. This was not one of them. I receive a friend request from a mystery man on Facebook and I’m intrigued. The guy lives in the town where I went to college, is around my […]
Do not offer a blanket apology for all men, do not ask to sleep with me, and more advice for feminist men ending a relationship with a feminist woman. A few months ago, I facilitated a workshop at UC Berkeley’s annual Empowering Women of Color Conference. I was asked to do a workshop that engaged […]
This originally appeared on Everyday Feminism. Republished here with permission. Coming up for air, I looked into his eyes. We explored each other, traced the lines of creases, rolled around like kids on a snow day, hugging and kissing, never wanting to get out of bed. From the beginning, I was hooked. I felt intense […]
Originally appeared on Alternet.org. Republished here with permission. In a technological era, the Dos and Don’ts of online dating are not always clear-cut. With a vast array of online dating options to choose from, it is easy to overstep courtship boundaries when interacting with the opposite sex as we try to determine what exactly constitutes […]
After a breakup, we often support our friends by vilifying their ex. But assuming that one person is the victim and one is the perpetrator minimizes the complexity of a relationship, says Kristen Forbes. Do me a favor and picture a little boy in his childhood home. Do you see him sitting on his bedroom […]
Dana Norris is the founder of Story Club and she once went on 71 internet dates. I go on two dates in two weeks. I meet both men via Match.com. Both have vaguely amusing profiles and are smiling in their pictures, which is harder to find than you’d think. I meet them both at the […]
Dana Norris is the founder and host of Story Club. She once went on 71 Internet dates. This was not one of them. I wake up feeling amazing. It’s a Saturday morning in May and I feel the kind of amazing that’s only possible after you’ve woken up feeling terrible every day for eight consecutive months. […]
Originally appeared on Mamamia.com. Republished here with permission. All the women I know like condoms. They buy a box at the supermarket; they keep them conveniently stashed in a bedside table. If they’re in bed with a guy, they politely ask him to wear a condom before anything, uh, gets put anywhere. Know what I’m […]
Plenty of female characters on TV today have made being a “hot mess” popular, but Emilie Aries wants women to stop pretending to be coy and confused, and start acting like they’re in charge. I’ll confess it: I’m a recovering hot mess. In the years after college, I was often self-deprecating and unconfident, minimizing my […]
There’s a dance involved with online dating that many have yet to learn, says Christan Marashio. “Let me also be honest here, you are one of the prettiest women I have seen on OKCupid. However, I must be honest with you again…I really enjoy eating women out, I could probably do it for hours on […]
