This was originally published at BlogHer by Hilory Wagner. Reposted here with permission. This is the conclusion to an article we posted last week titled “I Organized Speed Dating Events And Felt Like An 8-Minute Madam.” My final events played out like the fitful struggles of any star-crossed relationship. My Halloween-themed “Dating’s Not So Scary […]
This originally appeared on The Current Conscience. Republished here with permission. Last week, I was sitting in a hotel lobby waiting to meet with a friend. As I waited, I noticed a woman having coffee with her mother. During this meeting, the woman was excitedly presenting her mother with an e-reader. After the present was […]
Adaya Adler stayed in a loveless relationship far too long for fear of turning 30 as a single woman. But when she stopped trying to live up to her family’s expectations, she finally started living for herself and found love…on her own terms. My family doesn’t “believe” in divorce. Grandparents, aunties, uncles, cousins, and even […]
This was originally published at BlogHer by Hilory Wagner. Reposted here with permission. The moment of truth was the sound of the bell, like the “ring for assistance” chime in hotel lobbies. When those eight minutes were up, the ding was either a welcome peal signaling the end of the longest eight minutes ever, or […]
This originally appeared at In Our Words: A Salon for Queers & Co. Republished here with permission. Dana Norris went on 71 Internet dates in the space of two years. This was date no. 12. (We posted her previous dates here, here, here, here, here, and here.) I decide to find a dating site that caters […]
This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. The ‘Pregnancy Police’ Are Everywhere (Even in Your Head) by KJ Dell’Antonia of The New York Times Motherlode blog asks: Are pregnant women who color their hair—or paint their toenails, or hire a baby nurse, […]
People experience jealousy and competitive urges in many different ways, but when it becomes a turn-on, things can get a bit complicated. Clarisse Thorn breaks it down. Last year, I wrote a piece called “In Praise of Monogamy.“ I currently practice polyamory in my relationships, but I spent years dating monogamously. I’ve noticed that when people […]
This originally appeared on Fem2.0. Republished here with permission. I was on a date recently with a man I’d met through mutual friends. When the waiter brought the check to the table, my date casually remarked, “I’ll get this one.” “Oh that’s alright, I’m happy to split it,” I replied with a smile. He pressed […]
Hi, I’m Clarisse. You may already know me as a feminist sex writer, and Role/Reboot’s Sex + Relationships editor. I met Internet Sociopath years ago, when he started commenting on my blog. At first I didn’t take him seriously; then he unsettled me; eventually I started to think he was kinda smart, and then I […]
This originally appeared at In Our Words: A Salon for Queers & Co. Republished here with permission. Dana Norris went on 71 Internet dates in the space of two years. These were dates 10-11. (We posted her previous dates here, here, here, here, and here.) So I reactivated my account on Match.com. I receive a wave […]
As 43-year-old single mother Jennifer Chenoweth recently discovered, sometimes how you react to life’s little surprises is the biggest surprise of all. I do not want this to sound cavalier. I want it to sound like a miracle of choice, when a window opens in the universe to a view of something new. I worry […]
Sex + Relationships Editor Clarisse Thorn speaks with Mark Manson, a former men’s dating coach, about the pickup artist community, self-esteem issues, and how improving your relationship with your partner begins with improving yourself. I first met Mark Manson while researching “pickup artists,” also known as the “seduction community”—a group of guys who trade tips […]
