Sex-positivity and sexual misconduct, though, are really, really different, and we should know better than to engage in the latter under the guise of the former. “How could I be offended by that?” That’s the question that ran through my mind when a friend of a friend said “when you see me, you’ll get wet” […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We’ve been through a lot together—illness, financial […]
It’s important to create spaces for people who don’t clearly fit labels because their identities and their experiences are real, and they matter. One of the biggest changes we can celebrate in our media over recent years is the increasing visibility of LGBT people onscreen. But what about people whose sexuality doesn’t fit into any […]
As grown-up as I believed I was, I didn’t have the power to stand up for myself or the experience to communicate what I wanted and needed, so I became a conduit for satisfying the needs of others and ended up miserable. When I was in high school, I dated an appalling-in-retrospect string of men […]
Not once did it occur to me that my aversion to sex was anything other than godliness. I’m not normally a person who watches TED talks. I want to be, but the idea of committing myself to something educational when I could be watching videos of dogs is a hard sell. When a Facebook friend […]
Female sexuality is often defined in terms of what men want. Sprout Pharmaceuticals is on the warpath. The pill company keeps applying, now for the third time, to authorize sales of a drug called flibanserin, which has been nicknamed “female Viagra,” but the FDA just keeps turning it down. Sprout would like you to believe it’s […]
