Learning to eat was not about his health, it was about him meeting social norms. It was about me getting the approval of my peers. And in the end, my partner and I were not willing to risk inflicting emotional damage just to gain conformity. I was recently in the grocery store with my son […]
If we—as women with diverse body types, skin tones, and abilities—get to define for ourselves what beauty and sexiness look like, then the power will no longer rest with those who pad their fortunes with our self-loathing. I’m one of those women who has spent most of my life in and out of cycles of […]
Curvy is just who I am. I have the same kind of body that my mother had, that my grandmothers had. And I take good care of it. I can’t tell you exactly how it happened. I wish I could tell you there is a magic solution out there that could make all women accept […]
No one changes because you shame them into changing. “Are you sure you should eat that?” I can’t remember the first time I was asked that, but I was very young, maybe 6 or 7? I felt it far before the words were said aloud. The looks. The awareness of every cookie, every second helping. […]
When an icon like Jennifer Aniston laments that a perfectly healthy, thin body is too heavy for her liking, we, as a society, have a problem. Accepting my body has never been easy for me. Even at my smallest, I saw what I believed were imperfections: the dimpling on my right hip, the skin that […]
