Emily Heist Moss would like more straight dudes in her circle of friends, but she’s having a hard time finding them. A few years ago, Devin Friedman wrote a controversial essay for GQ called “Will You Be My Black Friend?” about his Craigslist quest to diversify his friendship pool, and I’m thinking about following in […]
New Year’s isn’t about punishing yourself for past mistakes, says Emily Heist Moss. It’s about taking the time to think about what you truly need in the months to come. Resolution season brings with it discount packages at the gym, overloaded yoga classes, annoying advertising puns about “fresh starts” and “new beginnings,” and a host […]
Emily Heist Moss says her tight yoga pants aren’t the problem, it’s your self-control, dudes. A few weeks ago, I wrote an open letter to a man who harassed my roommate and I outside a Chicago bar. My goal was to address harassers and their apologists and to add a few layers of context around […]
What are we telling young boys if the examples of fatherhood they see everyday are parodies of incompetence? Every time I see a promo for the new Scott Baio sitcom, See Dad Run, I gag a little. I can hardly believe that a) Scott Baio is still working, and b) they’re still pushing this “Idiot Dad” […]
Emily Heist Moss is sick and tired of the men who harass her and make her feel unsafe in public spaces. It’s a drizzly Friday in Chicago and I’m leaving a bar with my roommate sometime after midnight. We’re on a quest for tacos and we’re discussing the finer points—Should we get pork or beef? […]
After reading Emily Heist Moss’ viral piece about street harassment, Liam Killeen shared it with his group of guy friends in hopes of changing their behavior. Last month, an article written by Emily Heist Moss titled “A Letter To The Guy Who Harassed Me Outside The Bar” made its way to my inbox. It was […]
Emily Heist Moss is a sex-positive, 21st century woman, but still can’t help but care every time her “number” goes up. I recently slept with someone new the night before he up and moved across the country. I knew that I would likely never hear from him or see him again, and I didn’t mind […]
There’s more to equality than jumping on the raunch culture bandwagon. When the far right gets hysterical about gender roles, one of their go-to paranoid delusions is the accusation that feminists are trying to turn men into women and women into men. There are extremists in any movement, to be sure, but the majority of […]
Emily Heist Moss likes the idea of having a partner one day, but for right now, there are plenty of things she’d rather be doing than going on multiple dates with the same guy. My roommate has an analogy for the relationship between the dating game and the pursuit of an actual partnership. Going on […]
Emily Heist Moss asks a lot of her leaders, but one thing she doesn’t demand is fidelity. She shares her thoughts on the General David Petraeus cheating scandal. A few years ago, I saw General David Petraeus speak at an event in Chicago. I remember how impressed I was with his thoughtfulness, his eloquence, and […]
Sure the election is over, but Emily Heist Moss still worries that she’ll have to spend the rest of her life defending her rights. It’s over. For a while, I managed to hold it together. There was pie to eat and wine to drink and a couch to sink gratefully into. There were friends to […]
Emily Heist Moss asks: Are we obligated to reject our socialization? One of my favorite yoga teachers has this routine she does at the beginning of class. We are all in tadasana, waiting for instructions. This is not a hard posture; it’s basically just standing up with your arms raised and paying a little extra […]
