If I could enjoy reading about rape, did it mean that what happened to me wasn’t a violation? I first learned about rape fantasies when I was a naive 17-year-old who had never even masturbated, much less considered power dynamics in sexual relationships. A friend told me that a girl he was interested in wanted […]
Sexting can offer a safer, gentler space to practice overcoming ingrained shame. The first time I was asked to talk dirty was in my early college days, while giving my first long-term boyfriend oral sex. He presumably wanted me to say dirty shit with the same mouth I was using to do dirty shit all […]
I wondered if it would go from just texting to physical. Damn, how I fantasized about that. Part of me that hoped it would, then a huge part of me that knew it shouldn’t. I am a married, overweight, 40-something woman who’s not where she thought she’d be at this point in her life. For starters, […]
If our bodies tell the stories of our lives, we need to let them say more than that we are desired. About two years ago, a Facebook friend of mine began posting tastefully erotic pictures of fat women. The first time that I saw one in my feed, I physically cringed. I was not feeling […]
