This post originally appeared on Feministe. Republished with permission. Back when pretty much the only men wearing makeup were either rock lords or Boy George, I privately came up with the guideline that if any particular piece of grooming was something women generally performed while men generally didn’t, I could safely consider it “beauty work.” […]
The post originally appeared on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Never mind your tanking 401K or the astronomical price of gold. How’s your erotic capital? According to Catherine Hakim, a professor at the London School of Economics, erotic capital is a combination of “beauty, social skills, good dress sense, physical fitness, liveliness, sex […]
This post originally appeared on the Women’s Media Center. Republished with permission. The author, a nationally recognized authority on the choices women make as they age, analyzes a new study that tracks an unrealistic and stressful standard of perfection for men. In 1963 Betty Friedan’s Feminine Mystique identified The Problem That Has No Name—a soul-destroying malaise and […]
This post was originally published on Wonderfully Made. Republished with permission. There he goes. He’s texting me again. I thought I was done with this. I promised myself that I would stop this text-relationship. I vowed to only go on real dates with real men, real men who live in my real life! It’s been […]
This post originally appeared on the Huffington Post and New Deal 2.0. Republished with permission. When Sekiko Garrison told former boss Michael Bloomberg she was pregnant, his answer was simple: “Kill it.” Allowing mothers flexible work arrangements, he commented, was like allowing a man time off to practice his golf swing. The CEO who took over when […]
This post was originally published on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Mark D. White wrote a post today that gives an honest look at a guy struggling to understand a woman’s relationship to beauty, and how he, as a guy, should talk to her about it. Compliment her looks? Her intelligence? But why—when the […]
This post originally appeared on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Once upon a time, I was in a relationship with a woman who was the most brilliant, creative, and driven person I’d ever known. I told her these things often because she didn’t see herself this way, despite achieving tremendous success and acclaim […]
This post was originally published on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Last month, Mark D. White made some good points about how a professional woman may view, judge, and even castigate a man who does not share the same professional status, particularly when she makes more money than he does. Though it seemed over-simplified and […]
A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about Bridesmaids and how it could change the landscape for female-oriented programming in the theaters. I also mentioned how it indicates this country’s thirst for well-made studio fare by and about women. This past week The Help, a film about and targeted toward women, hit screens. The film […]
A new study by University of Buffalo sociologists suggests the answer is yes, indeed. This may be well-tread territory, but we think we need to go there anyway. One reason is what we call the “tyranny of the shoulds.” The study, entitled “Equal Opportunity Objectification? The Sexualization of Men and Women on the Cover of […]
This post was originally published at the Good Men Project. Republished with permission of the author. Fact: women are too often judged solely on their appearance and treated differently based on how they measure up to men’s ideas of what they should look like. This much is obvious, and I’m sure the majority of us […]
Have you ever witnessed this scene? Two women meet for the first time. A few minutes later, they’re engrossed in conversation, effortlessly discussing the intimate details of their lives. By the end, they’ve often formed a meaningful bond. A little later, their male partners join them. They stand around chatting with each other, having what […]
