I learned to be fully present with another while holding no huge expectation of what things mean and where they are going. “How many gears does your motorcycle have?” he asks on our first date, dining alfresco on a balmy L.A. evening, picking at salmon salads. It is the third first date I’ve been on […]
I didn’t want love, because love makes you weak, I told myself at the time. I didn’t want to be vulnerable, couldn’t be vulnerable, because vulnerability gives other people power over you. When I left P, I told myself, “Never again.” I was determined that I wouldn’t end up with someone who cheated on me, […]
He sat on the edge of our bed and told me that he wanted me to find someone else after he died. Although I was unable to see it in the moment, I realize now all these years later what a kindness it was. In the days after my husband Steve and I learned that […]
